What Makes Something Funny? The Psychological Theories of Humour.
Why do Brits laugh with self-deprecation, Belgians with quirky defiance, the Dutch at others (mostly Belgians), Japanese with wordplay, and Germans not at all?
The last part is a joke based on a stereotype that isn’t true. Does that make it a bad joke? Depends. Stereotypes, satire, irony, parody, puns, self-enhancement, cynicism, comparisons, punching up, punching down, body movements, facial expressions, pacing, rhythm—all of this is important, no matter the culture you’re from, but how and why they’re used vary greatly.
Before we get into the psychology of all that, what triggered me to write this article?
In my piece “The Worst Thing About Non-Americans,” I explain how voice messages act as a cultural and linguistic equalizer but catapult me into a fury capable of beheading unfriending anyone.
“I am actually all for voice messages. They definitely can drag, and a 5-minute voice note is a definite fuck you but as someone who spends so much time away from family and friends, it is really nice to hear their voices. Also, I have a weird sense of humour, which I think comes across much better when I can put inflections and emphasis on certain words. In written form, it can often seem like I’m just being rude!”
I can forgive Mikey for having the wrong opinion.
If I delivered that comment in a dry, offhanded matter without any change in inflection, a Brit would still understand the sarcasm.
However, American millennials would too. They’ve become more sarcastic and cynical since discovering they’ll never afford a home, and their public health care ends before it starts.
When you kill a Yank’s optimism, they’re one step closer to sounding like a Brit.
Mikey was right—not about liking voice messages, of course. He was right in saying that inflections and emphasis matter. Imagine emphasizing the word Yank with disgust. That would make it sound like I think Brits are better than Americans. I mean, they are, but that’s beside the point.
I’m joking! Of course, I’m joking. They stopped being better ever since they left the EU.
Do I need to say it again?
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Firstly, how dare you. I’m fairly sure I’ve never been wrong. Not even once.
Secondly, the part I laughed at the hardest in this piece was when you insulted the British, which perhaps only reinforces the stereotype that we love self-deprecation. What really tickled me was the idea that we’re the same as Americans except super gloomy - matches so well onto our history and current politics 😂😂😂
I wish I could afford to be a subscriber right now. I at least want to say how interesting and amusing this was to read. I'm an American who lives in Portugal and I find the Portuguese sense of humor to be a delight. I haven't quite been able to put my finger on it yet, but it's like a wholesome, deadpan, "dad joke" kind of humor. I started writing down several examples of the humorous quips I've encountered here so I could remember them. I also started writing a draft article about an instance in which another American seems to have missed the sense of humor and ended up making an ignorant ass of herself as a result in a dramatic scene that made me embarrassed/ashamed to be American (which is pretty much always).